Tombstone will have to wait.
We are in our super-busy time right now, when Kyle has baseball, John still has tae-kwon-do and the girls have their aerials. May, which I have started calling "Mayhem" will go by in a flash because the beginning of the month, the girls and I and my grandma are going to a retreat in Prescott (yay!), my mom is visiting us (yay!) the girls have their aerials performance (yay!), I will be visiting Memphis to see my newest, incredibly cute niece (yay!), and Kyle has Little League baseball playoffs (yay!). And even though the juggling and trying to figure out what to fix when we are double booked every single night is challenging, I am finding joy in seeing my kids develop skills and learning how to manage disappointments and challenges.
Kyle has a good teaching coach this year and has tried out to be pitcher. He is not incredibly consistent, but everyone has to start somewhere and he CAN strike kids out. His current position would be something like clean up pitcher or maybe 3rd string. In one game, he stole home when the pitcher dropped the ball and his run prevented the opposing team from tying the game and going into extra innings. There was some testosterone-based drama at the game which I don't like very much that involved a call that our coach didn't like. As he was protesting the call, one of the parents on the other side decided to "help" the umpire defend his call. This particular person acted like he had his heart set on his son playing in the major leagues by the time he was 18 and that is not a compliment. I envision a future adult who might hate baseball. The umpire eventually stepped in because the game was being delayed by the silliness. Tonight, he hit an honest triple, honest because he didn't get to go to extra bases because of overthrown balls.
Later that day, John had an in-school karate tournament last weekend and will have a regional tournament this weekend. At the regional tournament, he will have to perform the full routine. In classes, until you become a black belt, they only practice half the form unless there is an upcoming regional tournament. They will sometimes pull tournament-registered kids out of class to review the whole form. This time, however, they set up additional free classes to go over the form. We missed one class to go camping, so the night before the in-school tournament, John learned the whole routine for the first time. At the in-school tournament, the kids had the option of doing the whole routine or half. John decided to do the whole routine. It took him a LOOOONNGGG time to get through the routine and a few times he stood, rocking in place trying to remember what came next for 30 seconds at a time. He made it through the routine, though he missed some of the elements. He didn't get great scores, but, boy, I was sure proud of his chutzpah. He also didn't get great scores in the weapons, partly because he was making it up as he went along as opposed to other competitors who had a set routine that they did. After he got ready for sparring, he put his head down on his bag and started crying. I tried to find out what was the problem, but he couldn't tell me until afterward. Finally, his name was called to spar. His opponent was a recommended black belt, which means that he was preparing to test for black belt. I was worried. The primary judge must have been concerned, too because she asked him twice if he was okay and was able to compete. Both times he nodded his head. The minute they started the round, I saw him take all of his frustration and focus it on getting a point on his opponent. He ended up getting three points before ultimately losing. I was so proud of him pulling himself together and focusing on the next job. He ended up tying for third to get one medal in the tournament. Fast forward an hour and John explained to me that he had been crying because he knew going into sparring that he wasn't going to win a medal for the previous two segments (showing good math skills, I might add). I am so glad I wasn't fully aware of why he was crying because I probably would have said something like, "There's no crying in karate!" which would not have been helpful.
It was a good opportunity to talk about all the great things he did that didn't involve winning a medal, like trying to do something when he knew he hadn't had enough time to practice and pulling himself together enough to be able to score against a recommended black belt and just getting up there to try and compete. And then we talked about what he could do to do better at the tournament, like trying to teach me the full routine (because teaching it to someone else is the best way of learning the routine) and actually planning a weapons routine. And practicing it to get smooth.
The girls are getting ready for their Spring performance in a couple of weeks. My mom is flying in to take a little vacation, which will be wonderful. She will be able to see them perform, maybe see Kyle practice and see John in his karate class. This year, we will be finishing school right before Cub Scout Camp for John, Eric and Kyle.
We are studying Rome as a Republic right now and are playing "Conquest of the Empire" (think "Risk" set up for Roman empire-building). Kyle, of course, chose Greece and worked to get Rome. Elizabeth is occupying Carthaginian territory. She bought a boat and is working on capturing islands. Jessi is set up in Asia Minor and John and I are the very important but possibly easily conquered Hispanola. And in the process, I am challenging them, especially the really competitive ones, to view this game as fun, regardless of the outcome. "Playing games is fun and winning is a bonus" is the attitude I have asked them to take. And I also have to adapt this attitude because I am not very good at strategy games and sometimes put too much of my identity in winning. Learning together is a joy!
April 29, 2013
April 21, 2013
Camping at Kartchner Caverns
It has been a delightfully strange spring this year in Arizona. To this northern transplant, it actually felt like spring. You see, what most Arizonans call "spring", everyone else north of the Mason Dixon line calls "summer." That is because Arizona summers involve what I have called "pizza-oven" hot temperatures. If anyone wants to get a good idea of what "hotter than hell" feels like, come to Arizona in July or August. Usually, by this time, we are considering turning on the air conditioner because temperatures have already crept into the mid-90's (which is not considered hot by the natives). However, the nights have been delightfully cool in the 50's and we have only just hit 90 in the past two days. I have loved it.
While the temperatures were still what natives would call cold, we started planning a few long-weekend camping trips around the state over the next few months. We have several locations already chosen and last weekend, embarked on our first one: Kartchner Caverns, which was a clear winner among all the destinations for the kids. It is located about thirty minutes south of Tucson, about 2 1/2 hours from the Phoenix metro area. This is still part of the "low country", so visiting it in the summer is not recommended. We chose last weekend because it was the only weekend at the time of planning that didn't involve a baseball game until sometime in May.
Kartchner Caverns was discovered in 1974 and is a nesting place for bats. It became an operating state park in 1999 after two years of construction to preserve as much of the cave as possible. Kartchner Caverns is unique in two regards. Most people think of caves as being below ground. This one is part of a hill, which means that it is about ground level to the campsite. I am not sure, but I think that is the reason that this cave, unlike the most preconceived notions people have of caves, is rather warm. It is also a very wet cave, with high humidity in spite of its desert surroundings. So basically, touring the cave is like going outside in St. Louis in May.
The whole area is covered with mountain ranges and Kartchner Caverns is in a series of hills in the valley between the Santa Rita, Huachuca (pronounced wa-CHOO-kah), Whetstone, Mule, Dragoon and Rincon Mountain ranges.
We arrived Friday late afternoon on a cloudy day that in any other area, would have produced actual rain and not virga. The kids started playing games while hubby and I set up the tent. The campsite was surrounded by mesquite trees and we accidentally set up the entrance quite close to a tree, requiring us to duck as we walked toward the table. Several of us forgot once or twice during the weekend and either had branches grab our hair or whack us in the head. The campsite itself was very nice with electricity and water at every EVERY campsite. The water spigot alone was worth the slightly higher campsite cost. It also had free showers (not as common in Arizona) and the bathroom was pretty nice. The only downside is that we couldn't light a wood fire, which has been the case wherever we have camped in Arizona. That night, I tried a variation on s'mores that I found on Pinterest that we called the "smorito" because it involved flour tortillas, nutella and marshmallows. We were located between the Foothills trail and the trail to the Discovery Center, where you start your cave tour.
We spent Saturday morning hiking the Foothills trail and the afternoon touring the cave. Kartchner Caverns also has a state junior ranger program for the kids, which everyone except for John participated. The cave was breathtaking, with all sorts of stalagmites, stalactites, "bacon" and other interesting limestone formations. We took the Rotunda/Throne room tour. The tour guide was pretty well informed and obviously loved the cavern. Almost as impressive was a huge mud pit that had some ancient bat guano in one area of it. The mud "lake" is more than 20 feet deep, though most people only sink knee deep. The tracks of the original explorers are preserved like a set of really deep cross country ski tracks. Rangers and scientists who are studying the cave use those original tracks both to preserve the eco-system and because no one wants to slog through knee deep mud to make a new one. Even though it is very pricey, the cave tour is totally worth it.
The wind REALLY picked up that night, bending the tent in every direction and causing the rain fly to flap loudly most of the night. The sunshade, which in Arizona can actually be used as a sunshade and not a table-sized umbrella, was twisting alarmingly in the wind. Sometime around ten p.m., Eric took out the poles, collapsed the six folding chairs and put them on top of it to keep it and them from blowing away. Later that night, he found the wind had blown some of the chairs off and was turning the sunshade into a sail. He pulled up the stakes and brought it into the safety of our vestibule where it stayed put until morning. Sunday morning, we had an easy, no-cook breakfast, broke camp and headed for Tombstone before returning home. Tombstone is another story.
All the pictures were taken by my wonderful hubby, who is much more talented in photography than I am. We have no pictures of the cave because Kartchner Caverns does not allow ANYTHING to be brought into the cave. If you want to see what it looks like inside, check out this video, which does have some lovely video footage of "bacon" formation--linear, marbled formations that actually look like bacon before it is cooked. It also does a good job of giving the back story and features one of the discoverers.
While the temperatures were still what natives would call cold, we started planning a few long-weekend camping trips around the state over the next few months. We have several locations already chosen and last weekend, embarked on our first one: Kartchner Caverns, which was a clear winner among all the destinations for the kids. It is located about thirty minutes south of Tucson, about 2 1/2 hours from the Phoenix metro area. This is still part of the "low country", so visiting it in the summer is not recommended. We chose last weekend because it was the only weekend at the time of planning that didn't involve a baseball game until sometime in May.
Kartchner Caverns was discovered in 1974 and is a nesting place for bats. It became an operating state park in 1999 after two years of construction to preserve as much of the cave as possible. Kartchner Caverns is unique in two regards. Most people think of caves as being below ground. This one is part of a hill, which means that it is about ground level to the campsite. I am not sure, but I think that is the reason that this cave, unlike the most preconceived notions people have of caves, is rather warm. It is also a very wet cave, with high humidity in spite of its desert surroundings. So basically, touring the cave is like going outside in St. Louis in May.
The whole area is covered with mountain ranges and Kartchner Caverns is in a series of hills in the valley between the Santa Rita, Huachuca (pronounced wa-CHOO-kah), Whetstone, Mule, Dragoon and Rincon Mountain ranges.
We arrived Friday late afternoon on a cloudy day that in any other area, would have produced actual rain and not virga. The kids started playing games while hubby and I set up the tent. The campsite was surrounded by mesquite trees and we accidentally set up the entrance quite close to a tree, requiring us to duck as we walked toward the table. Several of us forgot once or twice during the weekend and either had branches grab our hair or whack us in the head. The campsite itself was very nice with electricity and water at every EVERY campsite. The water spigot alone was worth the slightly higher campsite cost. It also had free showers (not as common in Arizona) and the bathroom was pretty nice. The only downside is that we couldn't light a wood fire, which has been the case wherever we have camped in Arizona. That night, I tried a variation on s'mores that I found on Pinterest that we called the "smorito" because it involved flour tortillas, nutella and marshmallows. We were located between the Foothills trail and the trail to the Discovery Center, where you start your cave tour.
We spent Saturday morning hiking the Foothills trail and the afternoon touring the cave. Kartchner Caverns also has a state junior ranger program for the kids, which everyone except for John participated. The cave was breathtaking, with all sorts of stalagmites, stalactites, "bacon" and other interesting limestone formations. We took the Rotunda/Throne room tour. The tour guide was pretty well informed and obviously loved the cavern. Almost as impressive was a huge mud pit that had some ancient bat guano in one area of it. The mud "lake" is more than 20 feet deep, though most people only sink knee deep. The tracks of the original explorers are preserved like a set of really deep cross country ski tracks. Rangers and scientists who are studying the cave use those original tracks both to preserve the eco-system and because no one wants to slog through knee deep mud to make a new one. Even though it is very pricey, the cave tour is totally worth it.
The wind REALLY picked up that night, bending the tent in every direction and causing the rain fly to flap loudly most of the night. The sunshade, which in Arizona can actually be used as a sunshade and not a table-sized umbrella, was twisting alarmingly in the wind. Sometime around ten p.m., Eric took out the poles, collapsed the six folding chairs and put them on top of it to keep it and them from blowing away. Later that night, he found the wind had blown some of the chairs off and was turning the sunshade into a sail. He pulled up the stakes and brought it into the safety of our vestibule where it stayed put until morning. Sunday morning, we had an easy, no-cook breakfast, broke camp and headed for Tombstone before returning home. Tombstone is another story.
All the pictures were taken by my wonderful hubby, who is much more talented in photography than I am. We have no pictures of the cave because Kartchner Caverns does not allow ANYTHING to be brought into the cave. If you want to see what it looks like inside, check out this video, which does have some lovely video footage of "bacon" formation--linear, marbled formations that actually look like bacon before it is cooked. It also does a good job of giving the back story and features one of the discoverers.
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| Playing games before our hike. This was a guessing game where one person had to guess a literary figure in a book they had both read. |
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| One of the hills near our campsite. The Foothill trail did not lead to this peak. It was part of the Coconino National Forest (they use the term "forest" loosely around here). |
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| I love the craftsmanship of the sign, |
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| We are resting in the middle of an ocotillo "forest" |
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| Adding a rock to a pile at the highest point of the trail. The valley is spread out below us. We are all wearing camelback water systems. |
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| You might see a hill in the lower left. I believe that it is the hill where Kartchner Caverns is located. |
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| No gallery of photographs would be complete without the kids making silly faces. |
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| A lovely lizard. The tail looks like it has scales, but that is just the way it is colored. It was one of three different kinds that we saw. This one is the prettiest. |
April 4, 2013
Prayer Request
God has drawn me out of my pity party. I really have so much for which to be thankful. For one thing, He continually puts up with me and sticks by me closer than anyone. He has been with me through my singleness, beautiful and ugly moments in my marriage and in raising children, beautiful and ugly moments in friendships. I am a huge pain in the neck, sometimes, and would totally understand God saying "sayonara." But He is faithful and has carved me into the palm of His hands (Isaiah 49:14-16)
There is a family that REALLY needs your prayers. They have been an inspiration to me in terms of listening to God's voice and sacrificially loving complete strangers that live 9,000 miles away (and ten hours time difference) until they become family. Soon after we moved to Arizona, I met this homeschooling mom who suddenly felt a desire to adopt, even though her family had moved into a smaller home. And suddenly felt God focusing her and her family's attention on the plight of orphans in Ethiopia. Basically, orphans are considered 3rd class citizens in Ethiopia and if they never get adopted, they face an uphill battle to get jobs or even advanced schooling. Following God's call, they started by informally adopting two young men from an Ethiopian orphanage as their parents. God has forged an incredibly strong bond over several thousand miles between the family and these two men. The teenagers they adopted were still living in an orphanage at the time and were the "fathers" for all the young boys there. (Boys and girls are kept in separate facilities.) The mom eventually visited her boys four times, once with her husband and birth children. With God's help, she even planned projects to improve life in the boys orphanage, like having people make new pillowcases and stuffing them with pillows purchased in Ethiopia for the boys in the orphanage. During the 2nd visit, God brought a ten year old boy at the orphanage to her attention and during the fourth visit and with much prayer, they decided to adopt him.
Soon after that decision was made, a few months into a paper wrestling match with the Ethiopian government and raising the funds to pay for the adoption, they noticed that their tweenaged daughter was losing weight and developing a rash that wouldn't go away. For five months, they went to different doctors trying to figure out what was causing the weight loss as they saw their daughter become a shadow of herself. Eventually they found a doctor who diagnosed her properly: dermatomyositis. It is basically an auto-immune disease where the body attacks the skin and muscles. Wounds never heal, they only get worse and the body can create sores on the skin which turn into wounds. Patients also get progressively weaker without treatment. They found other problems, like a very bad reaction to the nickel in her braces that was essentially poisoning her body. All in all, her body was under attack in at least five different ways. She is currently taking more than 300 different medicines, most of them homeopathic and gets a weekly IV to treat the dermatomyositis. The good news is that three of the attacking agents have been dealt with and that her body is healing. The one exception is the dermatomyositis.
Since she has been diagnosed, she has developed two sores on her elbows that will eventually require plastic surgery, once the doctors have determined that she is well enough to be able to withstand the stress. However, in the last week, she has developed two more sores on her feet and one on her finger. When she was first diagnosed, the doctor said that 1/3 of the people with this disease have it go into remission, 1/3 of them deal with it on and off for the rest of their lives and 1/3 of them remain severe cases and can even die from it. The fact that she is continuing to develop sores makes it more likely that she will have to deal with it the rest of her life. Unless God intervenes. And because God is a God of hope and futures (Jeremiah 29:11), I have hope that God will swoop in and deliver a "shock and awe" moment to the rheumatologist and the other doctors treating her that are trying to prepare the parents for the possibility of a lifelong battle.
Even through this ordeal, this family's faith and trust in God is amazing. To be able to cry in frustration at how horrible the situation is and still praise God is truly sacrificial worship and faith.
Please join me in praying for this family, John, Tamara, Kristelle, and Kyle and their adopted sons Emnatu and Ayal, that God will continue to uphold them in their faith and strength in Him, as He has done so for so many months. Please pray that they would experience Him as The Comfortor as well as The Healer and Great Physician. Please pray for healing in the near future, or at least for it to go into remission, not just for the sake of the girl, Kristelle, and her family, but for the sake of the precious boy in Ethiopia who needs a mom and dad. And if you remember, please pray on Friday, April 12 at 7p.m. Pacific Time for Kristelle while she gets baptized during a prayer, praise and baptism event.
Thank you! And if you want to get status updates, go here.
There is a family that REALLY needs your prayers. They have been an inspiration to me in terms of listening to God's voice and sacrificially loving complete strangers that live 9,000 miles away (and ten hours time difference) until they become family. Soon after we moved to Arizona, I met this homeschooling mom who suddenly felt a desire to adopt, even though her family had moved into a smaller home. And suddenly felt God focusing her and her family's attention on the plight of orphans in Ethiopia. Basically, orphans are considered 3rd class citizens in Ethiopia and if they never get adopted, they face an uphill battle to get jobs or even advanced schooling. Following God's call, they started by informally adopting two young men from an Ethiopian orphanage as their parents. God has forged an incredibly strong bond over several thousand miles between the family and these two men. The teenagers they adopted were still living in an orphanage at the time and were the "fathers" for all the young boys there. (Boys and girls are kept in separate facilities.) The mom eventually visited her boys four times, once with her husband and birth children. With God's help, she even planned projects to improve life in the boys orphanage, like having people make new pillowcases and stuffing them with pillows purchased in Ethiopia for the boys in the orphanage. During the 2nd visit, God brought a ten year old boy at the orphanage to her attention and during the fourth visit and with much prayer, they decided to adopt him.
Soon after that decision was made, a few months into a paper wrestling match with the Ethiopian government and raising the funds to pay for the adoption, they noticed that their tweenaged daughter was losing weight and developing a rash that wouldn't go away. For five months, they went to different doctors trying to figure out what was causing the weight loss as they saw their daughter become a shadow of herself. Eventually they found a doctor who diagnosed her properly: dermatomyositis. It is basically an auto-immune disease where the body attacks the skin and muscles. Wounds never heal, they only get worse and the body can create sores on the skin which turn into wounds. Patients also get progressively weaker without treatment. They found other problems, like a very bad reaction to the nickel in her braces that was essentially poisoning her body. All in all, her body was under attack in at least five different ways. She is currently taking more than 300 different medicines, most of them homeopathic and gets a weekly IV to treat the dermatomyositis. The good news is that three of the attacking agents have been dealt with and that her body is healing. The one exception is the dermatomyositis.
Since she has been diagnosed, she has developed two sores on her elbows that will eventually require plastic surgery, once the doctors have determined that she is well enough to be able to withstand the stress. However, in the last week, she has developed two more sores on her feet and one on her finger. When she was first diagnosed, the doctor said that 1/3 of the people with this disease have it go into remission, 1/3 of them deal with it on and off for the rest of their lives and 1/3 of them remain severe cases and can even die from it. The fact that she is continuing to develop sores makes it more likely that she will have to deal with it the rest of her life. Unless God intervenes. And because God is a God of hope and futures (Jeremiah 29:11), I have hope that God will swoop in and deliver a "shock and awe" moment to the rheumatologist and the other doctors treating her that are trying to prepare the parents for the possibility of a lifelong battle.
Even through this ordeal, this family's faith and trust in God is amazing. To be able to cry in frustration at how horrible the situation is and still praise God is truly sacrificial worship and faith.
Please join me in praying for this family, John, Tamara, Kristelle, and Kyle and their adopted sons Emnatu and Ayal, that God will continue to uphold them in their faith and strength in Him, as He has done so for so many months. Please pray that they would experience Him as The Comfortor as well as The Healer and Great Physician. Please pray for healing in the near future, or at least for it to go into remission, not just for the sake of the girl, Kristelle, and her family, but for the sake of the precious boy in Ethiopia who needs a mom and dad. And if you remember, please pray on Friday, April 12 at 7p.m. Pacific Time for Kristelle while she gets baptized during a prayer, praise and baptism event.
Thank you! And if you want to get status updates, go here.
March 19, 2013
This is where the healing begins...
The final good-byes were said last week as really good, close friends and my homeschooling mom/partner-in-crime left for their new home 2,000 miles away. Coincidentally (or not), our church is studying Habakkuk this month in which a guy asks God a lot of questions and God gives him answers that he doesn't like because it doesn't fit in with his idea of a good plan, even though he acknowledges that God can only make good plans so this plan that seems to be wrong must be right.
I totally empathize with Habakkuk. When we first moved to Arizona, I felt cast adrift from a strong base of friends. I would vacillate between wanting to curl up into a fetal position and ignore the world to manically trying to set up play-date after play-date in hopes of finding my new best friend for myself and my kids. Looking back, I might have resembled this:
A year after our move, I found a homeschooling family that had moved 2,000 miles away to a house very close to us. Knowing what I had gone through, I contacted her and we set up a playdate. The kids got along fine and before you know it, we were planning a two-family homeschool co-op and put together a small P.E. co-op close to us. One of her sons and one of mine shared a passion for baseball and we took turns with baseball carpools. One of my daughters and her other son shared a love of making art, so we put them in an advanced art class together with a teacher that she had really liked. We still use the teacher. About the same time another homeschooling mom and I were talking about friendships and she talked about the "cult of friendship", in which "friendships" become a status symbol with the hierarchy based on how many FB friends you have, how many birthday parties you get invited to, etc. Through that conversation, God pointed out that I was buying into the cult of friendship myth and addressed some issues from my own public school experiences, in which I felt like a deer with a target-shaped birthmark over my heart.
Though the yield of the olive should fail
And the fields produce no food,
Though the flock should be cut off from the fold
And there be no cattle in the stalls,
18 Yet I will exult in the Lord,
I will rejoice in the God of my salvation.
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I totally empathize with Habakkuk. When we first moved to Arizona, I felt cast adrift from a strong base of friends. I would vacillate between wanting to curl up into a fetal position and ignore the world to manically trying to set up play-date after play-date in hopes of finding my new best friend for myself and my kids. Looking back, I might have resembled this:
A year after our move, I found a homeschooling family that had moved 2,000 miles away to a house very close to us. Knowing what I had gone through, I contacted her and we set up a playdate. The kids got along fine and before you know it, we were planning a two-family homeschool co-op and put together a small P.E. co-op close to us. One of her sons and one of mine shared a passion for baseball and we took turns with baseball carpools. One of my daughters and her other son shared a love of making art, so we put them in an advanced art class together with a teacher that she had really liked. We still use the teacher. About the same time another homeschooling mom and I were talking about friendships and she talked about the "cult of friendship", in which "friendships" become a status symbol with the hierarchy based on how many FB friends you have, how many birthday parties you get invited to, etc. Through that conversation, God pointed out that I was buying into the cult of friendship myth and addressed some issues from my own public school experiences, in which I felt like a deer with a target-shaped birthmark over my heart.
So I became content with the friends He had divinely appointed to me, including the one close friendship that was blooming between that family and ours. I figure that we spent, roughly two months a year with them when you add extra playdates, weekly co-op get-togethers, birthdays and even a camping trip.
So why would God encourage me to focus my time on developing a close relationship with a family that He was intending to move so far away in such a short time? Did I misunderstand Him? Had this family become an idol in my life and God had to remove them to demonstrate it to me? Is this a little more perverse form of His occasionally gently-twisted humor? The last two weeks, especially have been a struggle and, honestly, I started checking out again, wanting to curl back up in a fetal position and insulate myself from the world. Today, in quiet time, God replied to me, "My dear child, you and Tina have chosen the most excellent way--the way of love, focusing on people rather than accomplishments and activities. It hurts right now, but I will carry you through the pain of loss. Just let go of striving and fall back into my arms."
And so, I find yet another reason to have joy in this hard moment: that God has been pleased and is faithful to be the God of all comfort, the God who provides, and the God who is in control.
Though the fig tree should not blossom
And there be no fruit on the vines,Though the yield of the olive should fail
And the fields produce no food,
Though the flock should be cut off from the fold
And there be no cattle in the stalls,
18 Yet I will exult in the Lord,
I will rejoice in the God of my salvation.
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Habakkuk 3:17-18
March 6, 2013
Homeschool Idea
A dear friend of mine recently had her ten year old son diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, which is in the Autism Spectrum disorder. We have been working together with her son even before he was officially diagnosed because we had been meeting weekly for the past two years in a mini co-op. Her son had been having problems in math for a long time and she had switched curriculum two or three times in the past three years trying to find one that suited him. One day, she made a comment that he preferred to do the math in his head, even if it was long division because he hated writing out the numbers and had difficulty in lining everything up. That sparked an idea for me: if writing was the problem, why not eliminate that distraction in some way and get him to focus on the math, not the writing. Being a nerd, I immediately thought of a computer program to help. We pored online over different programs, some free online and some expensive voice recognition software. Generally, we decided in terms of programs, you get what you pay for. Then, a sudden inspiration was dropped in my lap: why not just get a ton (literally) of those plastic, magnetic numbers, enough to do long division or hairy problems? Later, when he takes algebra, they can buy the letters. Then maybe make the exponents, parenthesis and operations out of foam or clay and put magnets on the back. Instead, she and her son took sheets of foam and cut out the numbers and parentheses and had him write out the operations and exponents by hand. She bought a magnetic white board dedicated to math and a roll of magnets that they cut up and glued to the foam. Below are pictures of what it looks like (sorry that it is on its side--technical difficulties):
But the results are even better: his math scores have improved dramatically and, within a week of starting it, her son, the one with Aspergers Syndrome that doesn't really like being touched, HUGGED her and thanked her for working on the solution to his problem. So I am putting up there as a resource for homeschooling moms, teachers, or anyone with students who struggle with writing related problems like those in the Autism Spectrum and those who have dysgraphia. I also have this on my Pinterest site.
March 5, 2013
Joy in the midst of "Good-byes"
Three years ago, someone in the homeschool group to which we belong introduced me to a mom whose family had just moved to Arizona and lived near me. In fact, they lived less than three blocks away from us, though on the other side of a busy road. We started meeting twice a month or so for PE related activities. Last year, we joined as a co-op for Writing, History and Science and organized a PE co-op in our area with just a few families. You get to be pretty close when meeting roughly 52 times a year. Last year, she and her husband started discussing having him find a job because their oldest son, who shares a love of art and all things Tolkien with our oldest daughter, was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome with the usual side issues and his company's insurance refused to pay for all the therapy. Sure enough, he found a job fairly quickly with good insurance, but it was in North Carolina. That was in August. We were expecting them to leave at Christmas, but they decided to have her and the kids stay until the house sold. The house sold within a month of putting it on the market and the sale date was set in March. Two weeks ago, I looked at the calendar and realized that March was just around the corner. That is when it hit me that my kids are going to lose the closest friends they have had since moving here. So the last week or so has been an exercise in grieving.
Honestly, it seems as if, for the last five or six years, God has been removing the people who have been closest with us from our lives. It hurts horribly. When we first moved, I felt as if God was telling me that friends had become an idol to me--something good and necessary became something that meant more to me than God. I am not saying that it is the reason He moved us, just that He used our move to reveal an idol in my life so that I would draw closer to Him. And I walked away from that wrestling match deciding that if He took everyone else away, even my family, He would be sufficient. As I remembered those many conversations with Him, I realized that my attitude concerning the current situation has not been great. So, as of last week, every time I was tempted to wallow in pity, as much for my kids as for me, I made a conscious decision to choose thankfulness that He brought this family into our lives, even if it is for a short time. And I choose to be happy for my friends because He is bringing them back to a place where they can live near extended family, where they will have a bigger yard, a bigger house and away from the desert megalopololis, which I knew that the mom really hated. And I choose to trust Him with my kid's lives, though, in all honesty, I don't have much of a choice in the matter because the concept of being in control of anyone except myself is a Grand Illusion that the enemy loves to perpetuate. So, to be more precise, I have chosen to rejoice that the Lord is in control of my life and my family's life and rejoice in the knowledge that He is good in every situation, that He loves me far more than I can ever imagine, that He knows what is best for my family and will lead us. And I rejoice that we will spend eternity in heaven, where there are no "good-byes".
I choose joy even in the midst of sorrow and uncertainty.
Honestly, it seems as if, for the last five or six years, God has been removing the people who have been closest with us from our lives. It hurts horribly. When we first moved, I felt as if God was telling me that friends had become an idol to me--something good and necessary became something that meant more to me than God. I am not saying that it is the reason He moved us, just that He used our move to reveal an idol in my life so that I would draw closer to Him. And I walked away from that wrestling match deciding that if He took everyone else away, even my family, He would be sufficient. As I remembered those many conversations with Him, I realized that my attitude concerning the current situation has not been great. So, as of last week, every time I was tempted to wallow in pity, as much for my kids as for me, I made a conscious decision to choose thankfulness that He brought this family into our lives, even if it is for a short time. And I choose to be happy for my friends because He is bringing them back to a place where they can live near extended family, where they will have a bigger yard, a bigger house and away from the desert megalopololis, which I knew that the mom really hated. And I choose to trust Him with my kid's lives, though, in all honesty, I don't have much of a choice in the matter because the concept of being in control of anyone except myself is a Grand Illusion that the enemy loves to perpetuate. So, to be more precise, I have chosen to rejoice that the Lord is in control of my life and my family's life and rejoice in the knowledge that He is good in every situation, that He loves me far more than I can ever imagine, that He knows what is best for my family and will lead us. And I rejoice that we will spend eternity in heaven, where there are no "good-byes".
I choose joy even in the midst of sorrow and uncertainty.
March 1, 2013
This is dedicated to the one I love
Sixteen years ago on February 20th, I got into the mini van (known at the time as a "Bike Transport Vehicle") of a guy that I hardly knew to go on a four day cross-country skiing mini-vacation. Not exactly a situation recommended in Christian dating how-to books. Or even Stranger-Danger videos we tell our kids. My reasoning was as much a need for a four day weekend away from my high pressure job and a chance to test my endurance on cross country skiis, which seemed to overwhelm the negatives. I originally had another reason to go, which was to meet new potential friends, which can be a lot harder to do as an adult out of college. That third reason was laid to rest when the large number of people who initially signed up dropped out for various reasons.
This is what I knew about him: he was an avid bicyclist and in the "fast" crowd, meaning that he could bike much faster than I could; he had been very helpful in teaching me the basics of cross-country skiing when a group of us gathered at a forest preserve in Chicago on a rare day when there was enough snow on the ground AND it was above 20 degrees; he recently had become unable to do things on Sunday because he had "found Jesus" and started attending church on a regular basis. That last bit of information was provided by one of his friends and piqued my interest. It also made him a little more trustworthy in my eyes. Before I went on the trip, however, I prayed and asked God because I had just promised Him that if He gave me a godly man, I would not under any circumstances allow myself to become intimate with him. God was silent on the subject (or it could be that the wax in my ears prevented me from hearing His still, small voice), so I decided to see if the gentleman would be willing to go. He was, so I took it as a sign that God was okay with it (which is not the same as "approved of.") I found out later that his small Bible study group, when they met, prayed for my future husband's safety, safety of his heart, and for God to protect him from sin while going on a trip with an unknown woman. They might have even prayed for me.
I had brought along a stack of books, too much to read in a month, much less a weekend that was supposed to be spent in the great outdoors. Shutting myself in my room to read when we weren't skiing was my back-up plan in case he was creepy or annoying. I never touched the books. Within the first 30 minutes of the four-hour trip, he started telling me about how he had found Jesus. He was hoping to convert me, if I was an unbeliever. It started a great conversation about God, one that I had been longing to share with a man for a while. He was so funny and punny (he still is), which is my love language. We had a great time cross-country skiing and at night, we either watched "Into the Woods", which is a very long Steven Sondheim musical, or played board games. The only other thing that happened was that the seeds of a relationship was started. Two days after returning, we met for dinner at an average Chinese restaurant before the monthly bicycle club meeting and agreed to pursue a relationship. That was the start of a beautiful relationship, created by God, that remained pure until our wedding night. And that is why we ignore Valentine's Day and, instead, focus on our own personal Valentine's day on February 25th.
God is the best matchmaker. And my husband, though he would never be considered perfect, is still perfectly wonderful in my eyes, sixteen years later.
This is what I knew about him: he was an avid bicyclist and in the "fast" crowd, meaning that he could bike much faster than I could; he had been very helpful in teaching me the basics of cross-country skiing when a group of us gathered at a forest preserve in Chicago on a rare day when there was enough snow on the ground AND it was above 20 degrees; he recently had become unable to do things on Sunday because he had "found Jesus" and started attending church on a regular basis. That last bit of information was provided by one of his friends and piqued my interest. It also made him a little more trustworthy in my eyes. Before I went on the trip, however, I prayed and asked God because I had just promised Him that if He gave me a godly man, I would not under any circumstances allow myself to become intimate with him. God was silent on the subject (or it could be that the wax in my ears prevented me from hearing His still, small voice), so I decided to see if the gentleman would be willing to go. He was, so I took it as a sign that God was okay with it (which is not the same as "approved of.") I found out later that his small Bible study group, when they met, prayed for my future husband's safety, safety of his heart, and for God to protect him from sin while going on a trip with an unknown woman. They might have even prayed for me.
I had brought along a stack of books, too much to read in a month, much less a weekend that was supposed to be spent in the great outdoors. Shutting myself in my room to read when we weren't skiing was my back-up plan in case he was creepy or annoying. I never touched the books. Within the first 30 minutes of the four-hour trip, he started telling me about how he had found Jesus. He was hoping to convert me, if I was an unbeliever. It started a great conversation about God, one that I had been longing to share with a man for a while. He was so funny and punny (he still is), which is my love language. We had a great time cross-country skiing and at night, we either watched "Into the Woods", which is a very long Steven Sondheim musical, or played board games. The only other thing that happened was that the seeds of a relationship was started. Two days after returning, we met for dinner at an average Chinese restaurant before the monthly bicycle club meeting and agreed to pursue a relationship. That was the start of a beautiful relationship, created by God, that remained pure until our wedding night. And that is why we ignore Valentine's Day and, instead, focus on our own personal Valentine's day on February 25th.
God is the best matchmaker. And my husband, though he would never be considered perfect, is still perfectly wonderful in my eyes, sixteen years later.
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