I just want to say how great my husband is. He was being asked to go on a trip that would have him be gone for two weeks AND arrive just in time for us to leave on vacation. He managed to work out a way to be part of the meeting without having to actually go to it because, his family comes first. This is especially courageous because there has been a lot of downsizing in the company lately and there is always uncertainty in what will happen to you if you go against the flow. To be fair, another person who was supposed to go isn't because his wife is due to have a baby at any time and the plane trip would take several hours.
My love, you are my hero!